Andy Grammer’s “Honey I’m Good” was apparently a big hit last year. I’m just incredibly slow on picking up on popular music. Upon recently finally hearing it, it got me thinking. It’s got a cute hook, cute-ish seeming lyrics, but something seemed off about it to me. Let’s discuss this further. For reference, here are the lyrics.
The song is about a man out at a bar. An attractive woman approaches him. They talk, and when she tries to escalate things he says, “Honey, I’m good, I’ve got my girl back home.” Seems sweet at its face, but there are things I want to ask and discuss. Let’s go through some of the lyrics and you’ll soon see why.
Grammer begins after reciting the title of the song by singing, “It’s been a long night here, and a long night there / And these long, long legs are damn near everywhere / Hold up now, you look good, I will not lie / But if you ask where I’m staying tonight I gotta be like / Oh baby, no baby, you got me all wrong baby / My baby’s already got all my love.” Now what do we have here? Grammer is out, had a long day, and has a girl approaching him. He tells her no – that his baby back home (his wife, as the singer is married) has all of his love. The Bible points to the Lord’s desire for marriages to remain intact (Matthew 5:32, Matthew 19:9, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11) and infidelity being sinful (Exodus 20:14, Proverbs 6:32). But, what is the singer doing in this song and is it right?
First, he’s out drinking without his wife. Inherently spending time apart from your spouse isn’t sinful, but clearly he put himself into a situation where temptation would exist. And clearly, the singer is lusting after the woman who is flirting with him based on his comments about her long, long legs. Christ pointed this out that lustful thoughts are adultery; lust is adultery (Matthew 5:27-28). Now, recognizing beauty is not the same as lust, let me state that clearly. But, when you are wording things in such a way as commenting on a woman’s “long, long legs” or as Grammer does so classily later in the song by saying, “…and you’ve got that ass,” is clearly lustful thoughts. Drive. Them. Out.
Now herein lies part of the problem I had with this song. Grammer (or the character he has singing) has placed himself into a situation where he is being tempted to sin. Before he goes on to say that to his love he’ll be true, so goodbye – Grammer says, “Nah nah, honey I’m good / I could have another but I probably should-not! / I’ve got somebody at home, and if I stay I might not leave alone.” Let me take that last part back for you – “…if I stay I might not leave alone.” Meaning? If he keeps drinking, he might find himself cheating on his wife – so he plans to stop drinking now.
As I’ve already pointed out – lust is a sin, but so is physical adultery which Grammer is afraid he will commit if he keeps drinking. Now, the Bible is clear on its opposition drunkenness (Proverbs 20:1, Isaiah 5:22, Ephesians 5:18). So, Grammer refraining from getting drunk is a good thing. But, he knows that he will sin if he gets drunk. In 1 Corinthians 10:13, Paul points out that the Lord always provides a way out from sin which tempts us. For Grammer in the song, leaving is the way to avoid the sin. That said, here’s the question – why even put yourself into this situation in the first place if you know you have a proclivity to drunkenness or lust?
Christ calls for radical removal of sin from your life. He says if your hand causes you to sin, chop it off; eye? Gouge it out (Matthew 18:8-9). Sound extreme? It is – and it needs to be. For it is better to be lame and blind than for a person to be condemned to Hell. If going out to these bars means that Grammer is being tempted by lust, tempted to drink to excess, tempted to cheat on his spouse – he needs to stop going. Full bore, no more. Avoid and cut out altogether that which tempts you to sin. If this were me, I’d have a good conversation with my wife on the matter and ensure that I never go to bars alone. Period.
While the video and peppy music shows the fun side of romance in this song, there is a darker side which is unavoidable. Adultery of the heart is sin and needs to be avoided. If you find yourself in situations where you are drawn to sin, leave. If the same place keeps bringing up these feelings – avoid it. Radically change your behavior, free time, whatever to keep your marriage safe. It’s worth it and it glorifies the Lord.