WARNING: The video contains images which are not suitable for children. Also, in incredibly poor taste.
Last year, Miley Cyrus came in like a wrecking ball into our homes by twerking (or trying to) all over the VMAs. Her hit song “Wrecking Ball” is about a woman who’s relationship recently ended. Following the end of the relationship, the man claims the ending of the relationship is all the woman’s fault whereas the singer clearly is stating that she did not merely walk away, but felt pushed away by a man who would not attend to her emotionally. The lyrics can be read here.
Cyrus begins the song by stating, “We clawed, we chained our hearts in vain / We jumped never asking why / We kissed, I fell under your spell. / A love no one could deny.” She is discussing a rush to love which is not supposed to be awakened sexually during marriage when you are ready (Song of Solomon 8:4, 1 Corinthians 7:3-5). The two in the song “clawed” into a clearly sexual relationship very quickly, jumping in before marriage. The relationship then ended.
Cyrus continues, “Don’t you ever say I just walked away / I will always want you / I can’t live a lie, running for my life / I will always want you.” Even though the relationship is over, the singer still wants the man. Assuming they were married, the word is clear on wanting to keep marriages in tact (Matthew 5:32, Matthew 19:9, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11). This was not a marriage, however as seen from the life of Cyrus herself who has never been married. In Exodus, the Lord commands the people that if a man and woman who are not married have sex, he needs to wife her (Exodus 22:16). Other passages point to the fact that sex was designed for marriage (Genesis 2:24, 1 Corinthians 7:8-9). But, I digress.
The point of the aforementioned line was that she was still in love and the man was lying. The Lord commands us not to lie about others (Exodus 20:16). But, does He want us to continue living in the sins of our past? Absolutely not (Romans 6:1-2). If this relationship as it comes out later in the track “wrecked” her and brought her into sin, then she should most certainly let it remain over.
Cyrus goes on to say, “All I wanted was to break your walls…” and later in the song states, “I just wanted you to let me in / And instead of using force / I guess I should’ve let you win.” She wanted her man to be emotionally open to her and tried to force him to open up. We are not supposed to force ourselves upon others. As believers, we are supposed to encourage one another in the faith (1 Thessalonians 5:11, Hebrews 10:25). We are also to rebuke our brothers and sisters in love when they are not walking in the faith (Matthew 18:15-17). If a person is not open, if a person is not willing to talk, if a person is unwilling to listen, you cannot force them.
Many people in the world have hardened hearts to the Gospel of Christ. The Lord is knocking on the door to their hearts, but the people will not let Him in (Ephesians 4:18-19). The man in the song’s heart is hardened to Miley and Miley is trying to force her way in. Does Christ force his way to us? The answer is difficult to give and one which students of Christian theology have been arguing for centuries definitively. What we do know, is that Christ knew everything about us at the beginning of time (Jeremiah 1:5, Galatians 1:15) including whether or not we would accept Him as our Lord. He also is calling to us to be His own (John 6:44, Acts 9:1-23). Christ is different from Cyrus in the song in that He’s God, He knows your heart, He knows whether you will accept Him or not, and His perfection is never defined by your choice. Christ is defined by Himself, the only one who ever existed who can state “I Am” without any modifier attached to it. He just is (John 8:58).
Cyrus may have “…come in like a wrecking ball…” into the man’s life, changing it while he ignored her. But Christ, He comes in so boldly into a person’s life to change it entirely (John 3:1-8, Acts 9:1-23, Galatians 2:19-20, Philippians 1:6). He is more powerful than any wrecking ball, dividing family and making love for anyone other than Christ look like hate (Matthew 10:34-37). He is the most powerful force in the universe, greater than any power of Cyrus on the man’s life. He will come in more powerfully than a wrecking ball and destroy the old man (Romans 6:6), but rebuild you into a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17). Cyrus, on the other hand, came in and smashed into the man who did not want this emotional assault and came out damaged in the process.
This song displays a weak depiction of modern romantic love. It is not like the perfect examples we get in Song of Solomon. This love is impatient, bitter, and overly sexual. Christ-like love does not reflect any of those characteristics. Love like Jesus, not like Miley Cyrus. Let Christ be the wrecking ball and re-creator of your life.